Love or Lust? How to know..??

At one time someone would probably say to you ” I love you with all my heart…”, and then suddenly you start to see stars and little hearts floating just at the side of your head, giving you this bizarre feeling that as if you are the most beautiful creature in the middle of the universe… Then you start to combine your names together…Until…wait! you woke up and realised that it is “NOT” really what the person meant? Then you ask yourself…a big  “WHY???????” Wherein, you could have asked, “what could it possibly be?”And of course, no person in his/her right sane would tell you that what they feel is merely “lust” for you…whether they know it or not. So how can you tell?

One very similar feeling to love is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature – the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. Many adults still confuse intense attraction such as lust to true love.
As it is, lust is not love. Love is based on more than just physical attraction. Attraction is an essential factor but love goes deeper than that. Love is a shared feeling between two people who have a vested interest in one another’s happiness. Love is based on caring, friendship, commitment, and trust.
Love is a feeling that as if you always have a best friend beside you that you can count on and understand you. It is love when you feel that you can be just as yourself in good times and bad times. It is love when you think you can accept each others’ flaws no matter how odd others may think these are. It is love when you can actually forgive each other’s mistakes… These are just but some obvious signs of loving someone. Anything less is lust, deep friendship and attraction.
For some people it may not be that easy to determine love from lust. It may not always be absolute in finding out what makes someone say that what he/she feels is true love, but we can use some signs to know that what you really feel is heading towards love. If you agree with 7 out of 10 statements, chances are that you might be in love.
1. You know, because you have been told by your significant other; your deep feelings are returned in kind.
2. The object of your affection makes you feel special and good about yourself.
3. If/when you feel jealous, it is always fleeting; you are not insecure about your partner most of the time.
4. It feels serene, peaceful, and relaxing when you and your partner are together.
5. When you fight with your partner you usually make up. You both respect and forgive each other’s flaws and mistakes and think that being with each other is more important than pride.
6. You agree that nothing is more important than you both being able to express your true feelings (even if they sometimes cause conflict).
7.Your partner should not ask you to choose between him/her and your loyalties to family and friends; – if you do choose him/her over them you always have a good reason and it is always YOUR decision and your decision alone.
8. Your partner should know and understand that your work is important to you.
9. You are more yourself when with your partner than you are with anybody else.
10. If sex is part of your relationship, it is by mutual desire and agreement without the slightest hint of commitment testing or persuasion.

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Falling In Love

Falling in love and love are two quiet different feeling. Falling in love can be either a flash of emotions or a first step towards love.

Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. In case it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationships one day that feeling can grow into love. Falling in love is crazy, it very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable and mental.

You have to do nothing to fall in love and often there’s either nothing you can do to stop falling in love. It’s very illogical: you suffer from splashes of emotions, doubts, can’t fully control yourself and it’s all because of a person you usually almost don’t know. When we fall in love nature shows all it’s power on us. Sometimes it even goes against our sense when we understand that we can’t expect nothing good from these relationships that it’s the wrong person but still can do nothing about ourselves.

Falling in love is the call of our sex but the object is instinctually chosen according to our ideals, dreams and etc although we may not realize it. We usually fall in love with the appearance of the person, with the way he/she walks, the way he/she talks. Sometimes we impute to our object of love some illusional, ideal qualities and the more we get to know that that person the less we fall for him or her. That’s when the feeling disappears eve faster than it appeared.

The more two persons get to know each other, the more comfortable they get the less sharp, bright and exciting the feeling gets. Some couples continue their relationships and get married in the end some fall apart. It’s reasonable to say that a second pair of slippers by the bed and one more toothbrush in the bathroom is the end of that crazy falling in love but it also can be the beginning of  something more serious.

Different people fall in love more or less often than other. Some are switching partners enjoying crazy emotions which never turn with them into a real love.
Some may fall in love for a short time while having some permanent partner they love, this can even ruin some stable relationships. Some can claim to be in love with two people at the same time. These are usually two very different people so that one can’t choose which type is better but can neither afford to take both. In the center of love there’s always only one person.

We may call falling in love some kind of a temporary illness both mental and physical and won’t be very wrong. Some will say that it’s destructive, selfish, possessive, blind and give falling in love many other unpleasant definitions. But have those people ever been in love? Because if they have they would know that it differs from any other illness in on very essential way – it can be very pleasant. People nowadays often turn to antidepressants and drugs because it makes them feel better in the first case and makes them high in the second.
Falling in love is the most natural and the least harmless kind of doping. Yes, it’s not mural, it never looks in the future, in fact it has no future but it gives life some spirit of freshness and youthfulness...

Love At First Sight

Do you believe in love at first sight? Scientists study our brain activity and say that it’s quiet possible but everyone is free to believe or not to believe.

Some people claim that it happened to them and it was like you raise your head, meet those eyes and tell yourself “It is He/She!”. Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the moment. In some case we won’t even notice those charming eyes in another they can make a lasting impression on as. Also they say that it takes about 30 seconds to fall in love or precisely speaking to estimate whether the person is worth to fall in love with. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.

Very many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or “fast logic”, imagination etc. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind. Of cause the main part in falling in love is given to the appearance, voice, gestures, smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the feature to complete him/herself. Of causes beautiful people attract attention the most,  but sometimes it’s wrong to fall in love with them easily because those people are experiencing much attention from the people of the other sex all the time and your delightful reaction may simply have no answers.

But if you suddenly fall in love with quiet unknown person and see that it’s mutual that may mean even that mother-nature has chosen a partner that genetically suits you a lot. In this case it is like “aha, match!” when someone happens to fill up all the necessary categories like “tall, blond, blue-eyed, looks good, has a style and nice manners, likes me”.yuhoooo..!!!

Still the cases when people really had fallen in love from the first sight and lived long and happily after that are rather it. You may dream of a beautiful stranger that waits for you just around the corner but it’s wrong to name every slight sympathy and interest to a person the love at first sight. Maybe you’re just a little tired of everything that surrounds you or trying to fill the emptiness inside, yet it doesn’t mean everyone who looks nice will do. Sometimes it takes patience and time to find out the true nature of your feelings, mind that wonders do happen but not as often as we would like them too. If you suddenly have felt the wings behind you back still try to keep your feet on the ground because if it’s really love at first sight nothing will happen to it but if you’re taking illusions for reality falling back on the ground can be really hurtful.

By the way some theories say that we fall in love not from the first sight but from the first smell. Scientist claim that we pay much attention to what our eyes and ears tell us but on the subconscious level the way the person smells play a very big part in his or her expression on us although we don’t recognize it.

As always there’re as many opinions as many people. Each one has an equal right to exist because whatever the all those scientifical researches find out love still stays a sphere in which no one quiet sure in anything.

As always there’re as many opinions as many people. Each one has an equal right to exist because whatever the all those scientifical researches find out love still stays a sphere in which no one quiet sure in anything...
And me,i hope my dream will come true..!!!

Merry Christmas & Happy New year..

A Peaceful Christmas and 

A happy and prosperous 

New Year to you. May we all

be seven times better off at this 

time next year !May the miracle of Christmas fill your heart with warmth and love. 

Christmas is the time of giving and sharing. 

It is the time of loving and forgiving.

Merry Christmas to Everyone!

As the new year blossoms, may the journey of your life be fragrant with new opportunities, your days be bright with new hopes and your heart be happy with love! Happy New Year! 

Lots Of Love

I love you. I love every little thing about you. I love your cute smile, your magical eyes, and the sound of your voice. I love your gentle touch, and I love the warmth I feel when I’m by your side.

I can't stop thinking about you when we are apart. I need you by my side. You complete me. You mean the world to me. You are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

You are the one I've always wished for. I never thought that I would ever meet someone as special as you. I love each and every moment I share with you.

love forever

I Made A Mistake In Letting You Go

I sit here in sorrow, wishing I could hold you. I've realized that I've tried to replace you over and over since I made the foolish decision to leave you. But, no one can make me laugh and smile like you do. You are the only one that ever made me so happy.

No one could ever take your place. I feel as if my soul has stolen my heart and left me to cry myself to sleep each and every night with guilt in my heart of how I hurt you.

I guess you just don't realize what you have until it's gone. I was so stupid to leave you. I know sorry is just a word, but for what it's worth I am very sorry and I beg with every ounce of my soul please forgive me!

Love Always

Just Came Back From Birmingham & London

Quick update sebab saya baru jer balik dari Birmingham & London..sgt2 penat..!!biarlah gambar menceritakan segalanya..!!!

On the way to Birmingham motorway to slippery and i have to drive slowly..and salt spreading everywhere..

I Miss my mum & dad..uwaaaaaaaaaaaa..!!!!!nak balikkkk...!!!!!

I dont have any idea because i was so angry now..!!no mood at all..!!!!damn..!!